That battle cry went out on social media.  ME TOO!  And, it was a call to raise awareness that harassment, intimidation, and assault is happening to women.  Maybe not ALL women, but the majority of them.  It’s amazing how many people reacted, and how.


There are the women who deny it happens.  That if you dressed a different way (Mayim Bialik) that it won’t happen to you.  Now I could call her names for that statement that she made and point out how unattractive she was and that no one would hit on her…but, that would be catty.  She is actually a lovely woman from the interviews she has made, the acting she has done, but that doesn’t make her an expert in how women should dress and that it will keep the predators away.

According to Reuters thirteen women (so far) have come forward with claims that Harvey Weinstein assaulted (I hate that word, sometimes the word RAPE should be used, however my capture above explains the whole concept) them or made suggestive comments or inappropriate moves on them.  Some capitulated because of the power this man held over their careers.  You could dismiss one woman’s claim, maybe, I wouldn’t, however when this MANY come forth, you cannot as it is a well-known ‘secret’ in Hollywood what this man did.  When stars such as Gwyneth Paltrow, Angelina Jolie, Ashley Judd, and others of their stature come forth with their own stories, it has to be believed.  This man IS and WAS a predator and it was allowed to go on because of the perceived POWER he held over people.  How many women, maybe men too had their careers derailed because of this predator (and yes, he is a predator) POWER over them?  If they didn’t play by HIS rules, they were ruined!

Then there is the high-profile case of Bill Cosby who over the course of his career drugged and RAPED many, many women.  Now most would say ALLEGEDLY to avoid being sued, however I’m basing my declaration on the MANY women who came forth to testify and this is my OPINION.  Should we feel sorry for him because he is now old and blind?  Should we excuse it because while he was in his heyday he produced excellent work in the form of The Cosby Show?  NOOOOOO!  There is NO excuse for this behavior.

Men, and women too, TRY to excuse this behavior as ‘boys will be boys’ but there is NO excuse.  It should not and CAN not be ALLOWED.  Call the aggressor out on it, they SHOULD be afraid of THEIR behavior.  Their THREATS should be REPORTED as well as their ACTIONS.  Yes, it’s hard when you think you are alone, but what if you aren’t?  What if others come forth and tell the same tale?  You will have led the way and possibly prevented it from happening AGAIN!


This doesn’t JUST happen to WOMEN, it happens to men, boys even in everyday situations, not just the Hollyweird arena.  But maybe, if we make these perpetrators AWARE that we are going to call them out on it, maybe the FEAR will prevent it from happening in the first place.  Although, I think it’s been going on FOREVER…we can at least TRY.

A few years ago I was named General Manager of a company.  I was over-qualified for the position as I had been running companies for about twenty years at that point, but I wanted to see what I could do for this company with my unique skills and I welcomed the opportunity.  I worked my ass off and the owner was thrilled with my resourcefulness…especially because I believe in getting most out of it for free.  Advertising, marketing, etc are my forte and I didn’t cost him more than my salary.  I got in the newspaper about the work I was doing, I got on television, I got us in a free commercial even.  Newspaper article about Taxi TimeLOTS of FREE advertisement for the company.  He told me to answer to no one but him…and then, he went to Florida for the winter.  His Chief Financial Officer suddenly thought ‘he’ was ‘in charge’ and went after me.  Not sexually, just inappropriately.  Getting called a ‘fucking bitch’ to your face nearly every day because you won’t allow him to interfere, stick his fingers in the money, etc is not fun.  This harassment only increased from there.  I detest the word ‘cunt’ and I got called that and other names DAILY.  Now, I knew I was a woman in a ‘mans’ field, but when he enlisted the help of my people to harass me it took on dangerous elements.  It took four months but they wore me down and set me up.  I finally HAD to quit.  He wouldn’t let me wait in the office for a ride since they took my company car away from me even though it was the middle of winter.  I began to walk until my ride showed up.  When the State of Wisconsin found out why I quit, they (the company) tried to deny my unemployment benefits.  I won that round and got them.  The State went after them for the sexual harassment but when it came time to actually go to court they backed out, said I had to pay for my own attorney, which I could not afford, and I was left hanging.  Found out later that I wasn’t the only one this company had been sued for the same claims.  While this was going on, they watched my house daily.  I live in a fairly secluded area of my village and the car sitting there with a man sitting at the wheel was VERY obvious.  The police went by frequently as I called them, concerned for the ‘broken down’ car that always seemed to be there.  That went on for TWO YEARS.

This is something I posted on Facebook the other day:22528424_1656654664406695_791871147359960045_n

Real conversation, a variation of something I posted:

Do you know how many MEN raped women last year? Do you know how many BOYS harassed girls in their schools last year creating uncomfortable and unsafe environments for those same girls? Do you know how many men and boys impregnated teenage girls last year? Do you know how many people, men and women, let BOYS off with the phrase, ‘boys will be boys?’

Why is it ALWAYS the females fault when a male acts up? I taught my boys that girls are just as good if not better at some things, everyone has their strengths, and no means no. Is that so hard? Not everyone has the same skills or opportunities, it doesn’t mean they can’t do the same things, they just might not have had the chance. It doesn’t mean they aren’t smart enough or anything of that nature and they don’t ‘deserve’ to be assaulted because of their gender, their dress mode, or for ANY reason.

Accepting this behavior, not coming forward because you are frightened, are sure that no one will believe you, know that there are people out there who will fight for you, stand up for you, believe you.
Yes, there will be those who make false accusations but what if we assumed in the FIRST place that they were telling the truth? Would it, at least, take a sexual predator off the streets before they could do it again?
It’s time we banded together and fought against the misogyny, the patriarchal society that has kept us down for so long and is perpetuated EVERYWHERE, not just in our country. Perhaps, we can create a better SOCIETY as a result…I know I’m doing my part because I created to BETTER human beings who happened to be male.attn-women-are-keeping-each-other-safe-in-publi-women-5737782

You are not alone.  Nearly EVERY woman has been the VICTIM of this horrible epidemic…and it IS a disease.  One perpetuated by ignorance and stupidity.  A misogynistic and patrimonial society that allows it to continue…Let’s stop it in ONE generation.  There are those who will say, I can’t do anything…but, you can.  Awareness is only PART of the problem.coworker11done

I don’t claim to have the answers, but we do need to do SOMETHING, ANYthing to make people more aware of its insidious allowance into our lives.  The women, and men, who allow it to happen, perpetuate it, victimize others with their behavior cannot be allowed to continue.  It affects the VICTIMS for LIFE.

1oftnbIt’s NOT funny, it’s not ‘boys will be boys’, it’s horrific, sometimes making suicidal victims in its wake.  We already know our government ALLOWS it, but maybe we need to take the bull by the horns and make THEM aware of how WRONG it is!would-you-help-stop-sexual-harassment-what-would-you-do-13162463


Taking a Knee

It is NOT about disrespect to our anthem. It IS about respectful protest…don’t let people, especially those in our White House, confuse you or the issues. They are attempting slight of hand and if you fall for it, you may miss the important stuff…

Mary Griggs

Sunday’s football games were eagerly anticipated by just as many people who don’t give a rat’s ass for the sport as by those who were fanatics. All across the nation (and especially in the White House), people’s heads were exploding over what football players were doing (or not doing) during the national anthem. These are the same folks, mind you, who just a few short months ago were going completely insane over the removal of monuments dedicated to people who fought a war to destroy our country.

Let me begin by making one thing clear: I am an army brat. I am from a family with a long and proud history of service in the military. I was raised on bases where everything, including traffic, stopped each night when the flag came down. I was taught respect for our nation’s flag and the proper etiquette on handling it – and…

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Being A Girl: A Brief Personal History of Violence

The Belle Jar


I am six. My babysitter’s son, who is five but a whole head taller than me, likes to show me his penis. He does it when his mother isn’t looking. One time when I tell him not to, he holds me down and puts penis on my arm. I bite his shoulder, hard. He starts crying, pulls up his pants and runs upstairs to tell his mother that I bit him. I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone about the penis part, so they all just think I bit him for no reason.

I get in trouble first at the babysitter’s house, then later at home.

The next time the babysitter’s son tries to show me his penis, I don’t fight back because I don’t want to get in trouble.

One day I tell the babysitter what her son does, she tells me that he’s just a little boy, he doesn’t know…

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I’ve lost my reading skills.  You might say WHAT?  How is that possible?  You’ve written how MANY books and published HOW MANY books and you’ve lost said skills?  Well, I have a theory…

I write because I enjoy it, my creative mind takes over and I can write, and write, and write.  Yes, I re-read it to check for story line errors, add things, tweak things, and to keep within the story itself…but I don’t READ to ENJOY it.10401992_10153118816006291_3651151688037072011_n

I READ my authors books, which I DO enjoy or I wouldn’t be publishing them…in fact, I have a confession, I’ve gone back to reread their stories from time to time because, I have my favorites…shhhh.

However, I realized after all the hard work of writing and publishing, I haven’t just read for MY enjoyment in a LONG time.  I lost my reading skills.2277838

I have a lot of author friends, some of who have been kind enough to send me copies of their books (thank you by the way, it IS appreciated).  freeHowever, I don’t think I’ve had the TIME to read them because I do work, and work HARD at my own stuff.

My girlfriend is an author and a lovely woman (she paid me to say that, NOT).  I took a wee bit TOO long to read her first offering to the public.  I was BUSY.  It caused hurt feelings, and, each time I was asked, I felt a stubborn resistance to even FIND the time.  Believe me, I FOUND the TIME.

That’s just it…TIME.  262a008a1093ae08fb758bbb904e8053Apparently, I do a lot of work that people aren’t aware of.  They SEE me on social media ‘playing’ and don’t realize I’m posting in groups (thanks for Facebook Jail BTW), promoting, chatting with authors and sometimes even socializing with friends.  Sometimes it’s just up in the background so people can get a hold of me if they need to.  They just see me ON there ALL the time and assume…well, stop doing THAT.

I actually do read, A LOT!  I really enjoy doing research, watching biographies, documentaries, and movies on a subject…but that is ‘work.’  Fortunately, I enjoy my work.76bef9f0c38dd2bb2778c2ebd4faff13--hate-cats-reading-library

Yesterday, after finishing up one of my author’s books, formatting it, and sending it off to the beta readers, I read for FOUR glorious hours from one of ‘the other’ authors that I have collected for thirty years.  r2-1-e1466127938360 She died two years ago, but her stories will live on gloriously.  The really cool thing about it, although I’ve read her books numerous times, I didn’t remember everything so it was like reading it for the FIRST time, and yet, not.  Her books have a familiar feel and the stories are just marvelous.  When I grow up, I want to be just like her…images

So, I realized…I haven’t been reading just for PLEASURE in a LONG time and I need these little breaks…they help inspire me, make me work so that I can get back to my GUILTY PLEASURES (stop, you dirty minded readers, you), which has always been, READING.images (1)  Fortunately, I have many bookshelves full of potential targets that have nothing to do with my ‘work,’ but have everything to do with reading…reading-meme

I’ll let you know if I find my reading skills…I know I left them around here SOMEWHERE….Rainbow Feather READ



I have a standing joke with several of my friends where, when we become distracted, we say SQUIRREL or SHINY, or, if it’s really bad, SHINY SQUIRREL.  You get the reference, squirrels are always easily distracted and if it’s shiny, it’s worse.  Authors aren’t much different.  So, I find this funny.  I also find squirrels cute, as I didn’t have to deal with them trying to get in under our roof, building nests, being destructive when I grew up, my mother had some stories that made them seem like the pests they can be.  They also tend to create havoc when bird feeders are involved.

I can stop and watch a video of a squirrel because I find them amusing, clever, and cute as hell…hence the ‘distraction’ when I’m trying to write.14717122_998578910251411_550216731590625770_n

Since my friends know of this quirk of mine, I get a lot of squirrel pictures or share them with a select few.  I even went so far as to make the Shiny Squirrel, something several of them find funny or roll their eyes at.the-shiny-squirrel-cover

Last fall, I went to visit my girlfriend who lent me their family cabin for a week so I could relax after traveling so much, be near enough for her to visit, and to get away from it all.  It was beautiful and I posted pictures in my Facebook timeline before about the house I had to myself…or, as it turns out, not so to myself. 20161019_111321.jpg

I tend to ‘hear’ things.  I am told it’s because I’m sensitive to things beyond my knowledge (for now).  Some of it is ghosts, my mother has let me know messages from beyond, and others who either live with me, reach out, or even haunt me.  My cats are frequently seen in my house, definitely heard, and knock stuff around…the last one died before this last trip so the fact that these cats are gone means I’m hearing their ghosts…it’s annoying but I live with it.  Just last week the one that I last put down sharpened her claws on my carpeted steps…she’s been gone since September.  IMG_20150809_104958She really needs to stop acting like the living and move on…I’m told she won’t move on until I do from this house…that’s another story. (see how I get off track from a story…squirrel)

So, staying in this fairly remote (and beautiful) cabin, I heard the first night a rather high-pitched peeping noise.  Turned out it was a plug in to keep mice at bay.  I told my girlfriend about it and she said, unplug it.  Then she seemed ‘obsessed’ about preventing an infestation of mice, involving her father in the whole thing, putting down a TON (and stinky, you can have TOO much of that ‘spring fresh’ scent) mass of dryer sheets to ‘keep them away’ and discourage their living in the house.  She was rather overboard about it, and I didn’t think anything of it.  bounce-sheetsI just thought she was concerned about me staying there, wanted my time pleasant, and mice are destructive.  Turns out, there was another story to it that she just told me…FOUR MONTHS LATER.

She had been visiting me, we were sitting at the kitchen table chatting.  My back was to the room, her valiant husky was on the floor…sleeping (the lazy thing)big_husky and, apparently, we had another guest that she didn’t quite tell me about…a squirrel.

Since my back was to the room she glanced beyond me, saw something out of the corner of her eye (I frequently see things like that when the ghosts are particularly active, but when I tell her, I can hear her mentally rolling her eyes).  The something was a squirrel…in the cabin.  It hopped to the steps, climbed them to the first landing, and then perused the room…looking at both my girlfriend and I, analyzing the threat of the sleeping, and lazy dog, husky-hates-dog-shampoo-smelland deciding we weren’t that much of a consideration as it continued on up the steps.  When my girlfriend excused herself to make a phone call, I thought nothing of it.  After all, we are both busy individuals.  When she came back from the phone call (more than one I have now found out) was when we HAD to go shopping and pick up those dryer sheets to lay all over the cabin…as per her father’s ‘suggestion.’  Apparently, she had demanded that he come down and catch the thing.  He told her he had TRIED over the years to no avail and to use the dryer sheets which they can’t stand the smell of.  She next tried her sister, again demanding that she come down and catch the thing.  She was told she had exterminators in there who had tried to catch the things…again, nothing.  So, the stinky (and overwhelming) dryer sheets were apparently the answer.

I have now envisioned the possibility (because I’m creative like that) of waking up with a squirrel sitting on my chest, squirrel-officer-8looking into my face, waiting for me to wake up…and my girlfriend, saying nothing, because she didn’t want to ‘scare’ the squirrel, and, of course, pet-halloween-costume-312__605the dog doing nothing because she was too lazy and sleeping…

Anyway, that’s my squirrel story and I’m sticking to it (for now, until I can embellish some more) and I worry that my girlfriend kept the true parts of this story to herself for four months, feeling I might feel uncomfortable staying there with a rodent in residence, which, her father assured her, was probably up the chimney at that point.  I did hear the patter of ‘little feet’ on the roof as I recall during my stay there…but contrarily, I also heard branches against the windows and those killer ‘ninja’ squirrels could have gotten me…and then, where the hell would I have been?hqdefault

Hope you’ve enjoyed the latest ‘story’ 16176050_10155035355992682_1729968539_n as well as the one coming soon!


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